It’s easy for people to unfairly judge cannabis use when most of what they know about the plant is a lie. The last thing we want is for another person to judge us based on a misconception or stereotype. This is especially true for cannabis consumers, considering just how much anti-pot drivel has been crammed into people’s heads over the past eight decades.
Although the world is finally starting to see through all the propaganda, and marijuana consumers are beginning to feel more comfortable, coming out green can still be a difficult first step. And in the context of intimate relationships, keeping it a secret can be toxic. Whatever you do, don’t shame your partner for not partaking or pressure them into trying cannabis. Their choice to forgo is just as valid as your decision to indulge. They don’t need to have reasons or convince you that refraining is the right call for them. Even if you think they’d enjoy it, or just haven’t tried the right strain/method/circumstances, hear and respect their “no” the way you need them to hear and respect your “yes.”
Make sure you’re clear on your expectations and boundaries before taking any major steps such as living together, getting married, or having children. You don’t want any surprises popping up once you get to these bigger life milestones, so start having these conversations now before you venture further down the road together. Find the compromises that can be made outside of just whether or not to consume, such as where, when, and how. My partner doesn’t like when I smoke in the house, but is comfortable with me consuming edibles or vaping. There may be more room for compromise than either of you think; be sure to explore the discomfort and share where it’s coming from to see what can be done to keep everyone feeling happy and safe.
Understand Your Partner’s Rationale
Did your partner have a bad experience back in college? Do they know a lazy stoner? Have years of propaganda from the government and pharmaceutical industry shaped their opinion? Once you understand why your partner looks down on cannabis, it’s much easier to convince them otherwise. Be explicit about your respect for their opinion, and come prepared with evidence for your own. Cannabis is shown to be far less harmful than alcohol and other substances. That alone is a pretty shocking fact for most people who’ve never tried the herb.
How Does Cannabis Help You?
If a person hasn’t ever knowingly spent much time with a responsible cannabis consumer, they are probably unaware of all the benefits this plant can bring into someone’s life.Once you communicate this to your partner, it’s much more likely that they will begin to empathize and respect your views.
The lazy stoner stereotype is prevalent for a reason. Cannabis has countless benefits, but like everything else in life, it can be abused. If you become glued to the couch after having a few puffs, and you forget about your partner or your job, that’s not responsible consumption. Cannabis should expand your horizons, which does not translate to sitting on your ass and watching an entire season of Broad City.
Same thing goes with minding what you eat when you get the munchies. Physical attraction is important in every relationship, so switch out the Flamin’ Hot Cheetos for some watermelon or frozen grapes, and you won’t have to worry about gaining weight. Don’t give your partner any ammunition to continue being judgmental.
Have a Session Together
If you set a good example as a responsible marijuana user, and your partner starts to come around, why not invite them to try it with you? Inviting your partner to try cannabis with you for the first time can lead to an amazing experience. Remember to go slow and don’t pressure them if they’re not comfortable.
Inviting your partner to try cannabis with you for the first time can lead to an amazing experience. Remember to go slow and don’t pressure them if they’re not comfortable. For first timers, vaporizers are way less intimidating than a bong or a joint, and the lack of combustion is reassuring. Either way, pot is much easier to understand if you’ve done it first-hand. Just make sure you start off slow and don’t pressure your partner if they’re reluctant. Whether they decide to try it or not, once your partner understands just how safe and enjoyable marijuana can be, you’ve both done your part.
Find the compromises that can be made outside of just whether or not to consume, such as where, when, and how. My partner doesn’t like when I smoke in the house, but is comfortable with me consuming edibles or vaping. There may be more room for compromise than either of you think; be sure to explore the discomfort and share where it’s coming from to see what can be done to keep everyone feeling happy and safe.
A positive relationship involves trust, mutual respect, and seeking to understand each other’s differences. Patterns of close-minded thinking could be a red flag. A great partner will be understanding so long as you’re a responsible consumer and you’ve done everything in your power to understand their point of view and convey yours. You should never be forced to choose between cannabis and your partner, as that will lead to resentment and unhappiness. Trust your gut and don’t settle; don’t be afraid to find your perfect match. Some people don’t have an open mind, no matter how much you respectfully reason with them. Close-minded partners are more trouble than they’re worth, so if someone doesn’t make you happy, they’re not the right person for you.